Totally Confused

Dear Dallas,

I have this problem where there's 3 cute boys in my life, and I like them all. I have no clue if any of them would even come close to liking a dork like me, but it's not gonna stop me from crushing on them. So, do I keep crushing on them all, or choose just one or two? My other problem is I totally stink at flirting with boys. Do you have any tips? (How do I know when to flirt and when not to?) I also have this one great friend that doesn't like boys, so what if she catches me flirting. Should I tell her I like him, or just... do what? (It's her brother I like =P) Another one of the guys I like is really popular and some girls always hang around him. However, we're both in Drama Club and are good friends, but again, I have no clue on how to tell if he likes me or not. Anyways, thanks for any help you give me!


-Totally Confused...




Dear Totally Confused,

Well, let me get started by saying that you're in a situation that is very tough, but is experienced with almost every girl at one point in their life. With you liking three boys, more than likely one of them will like you. Also, you can't necessarily stop crushing on someone that you have a crush on. If you have a crush on someone, then you have a crush on someone. It's that simple. When it comes to flirting my mom always said to just be yourself and have confidence. I say to do the same, but make yourself stand out just a bit instead of hiding from the crowd. Also, don't flirt at a place like Church or in front of your teacher. That's always a bad idea. If you like your friends brother then it's best not to flirt with him around her. It's also not the best to tell her that you like him unless you can TOTALLY trust her and you guys are like sisters. If there is a popular guy that you like, you really have to make yourself stand out. If you do that the guy will probably notice you more. Also, the way you can tell if he likes you or not is by how much he looks at you, talks to you, and teases you (in a non mean way.) Hope that helps somewhat!

Sincerely,
Dallas

Bad Boyfriend

Dear Dallas,
I have a terrible problem. I have a boyfriend, and I really like him. The thing is, he is all sugar and spice to me around all of his friends, but when all of his friends are gone, he ditches me for another girl!!! At least, that's what I think. I've seen him talking to her in the hallway. Should I break up with him, or just pretend like I haven't noticed anything?

Sincerely,
Bad Boyfriend

Dear Bad Boyfriend,
If I were you, I would confront him on what you think he is doing. If he says he wasn't doing it, then keep a close eye on him and if you do see him do it, then tell him again. If he says he didn't do it again, then dump him then and there. If he tells you that he was, then tell him if he does it again that it will be over between the two of you, and mean it. Also, if you just don't feel a connection, then break up with him saying you two can still be friends. Tell him the reasons why.

Sincerely,
Dallas

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Sincerely,
Dallas

DKWTG

Dear Dallas,
My parents are getting divorced and I get to choose who I stay with. My mom ignores me and my VERY annoying brother is going to stay with my dad. Also, my dad smokes WAY to much and I have a hard time being around all the smoke. Who should I choose? My gut tells me to go with my dad, but my heart says my mom. HELP!
Sincerely,
Don't Know Where to go

Dear DKWTG,
I have to say that my parents are not divorced so I am not in the same boat as you, but I'm pretty sure I can help. If I were you I would choose your dad and here are my reasons. I know that you want to be with a woman and your dad smokes, but if your mom ignores you and your dad gives you more attention, then I would go with your dad because I would want to feel like I mattered. Also, I can understand how your brother can be annoying because I also have a brother, but after a while your probably going to miss him. I hope after reading this you can make up your mind.
Sincerely,
Dallas

P.S. If you decide to choose your dad and you need a woman to talk to, then going to a woman school counselor or a woman you trust might help you get things off of your chest.

Bullied Around

Dear Dallas,
I am having a little trouble with the bully at my school and I don't know what to do about it. Everyday at lunch time she steals my turkey sandwich and rice crispy treat and I'm afraid that if I tell my mom she'll pull me out of school and home school me. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Bullied Around

Dear Bullied Around,
First off, I am home schooled and it's not as bad as it seems. Second of all, if you don't want to be home schooled then tell your mom that you want to stay in school no matter what. Last, if you refuse to go to your mom, then try going to either your teacher, principal or the school counselor. I hope this helps.

Sincerely,
Dallas

Confused Crusher

Dear Dallas,
There's this boy that goes to my school and I really like him but I don't know if he likes me. How can you tell when a guy likes you or not.
Sincerely,
Confused Crusher

Dear Confused Crusher,
There are three steps on how to see if a guy likes you or not. The first step is to know how many years apart in age you and the guy are. If the guy is more than two years older than you, likely chances are he probably won't have a crush on you. The second step is to flirt with him. The third and last step is to see if he flirts back or not. If he does, likely chances are that he has a crush on you. If he doesn't then you know he probably doesn't have a crush on you and you should just try to be friends.

Sincerely,
Dallas